"It is love when it makes you meet your demons and connect with your angels"
Intimate love has many layers that depend upon the sole intent of the two beings who possess the relationship. There is love in the material world where the ego rules the relationship. It is a "me first" attitude and there isn't much common ground. The relationship is ruled by what a person can get out of the relationship. It isn't a love that is based on individual characteristics like personality. No, it is all about gain. I would believe that we all have experienced that kind of relationship before.
It might not been that extreme. It could of been subtle...being with someone because they have a place to stay. Some might be aware of their materialistic love pattern while others try to justify their "relationship". To each is own. I don't really like those kind of relationships. I believe as you grow older, you should become more experienced with love. Then, with the experience you can search for a love that is closer to a spiritual love. The UNCONDITIONAL LOVE that represents GOD.
That love is the hardest type of love because it strips you down. It leaves you naked and all skeletons start to fall out of the closet. Any imperfections that you may have, seem to have a light beamed on them. Some people run and hide from this kind of connection because it makes them vulnerable. That would be a huge mistake because that type of love makes you AUTHENTIC. Love is suppose to help you to grow into who you are meant to be.
You are suppose to be with a partner who challenges you to become greater. You shouldn't settle for less and be with someone that makes you feel worse. In that kind of relationship, you are going to go through the "me first" stage because you have subconscious defense mechanism from past loves. You end up shutting down or assuming scenarios because you encounter a similar situation from the past, but this time you must learn that it is different. You are with someone who is growing on a spiritual path with you. Each partner is still on their own path too.
You have to learn the art of unconditional love when you encounter this kind of relationship. You must be patient with your partner because you both might not be growing spiritually at the same rate. You must have GOOD COMMUNICATION because there isn't one way to seeing a situation. I'm still learning these traits myself to make me a better unconditional lover. It's a beautiful union when you have unconditional love (spiritual union) so long as it is a growing union for the better. A spiritual union opens you up to a world that is totally different.
It is basically two authentic beings that are in a loving union. Both are working towards the greater good of humanity and showing that through their bond. You are both part of a higher calling and have been called upon in this lifetime to see those callings come to light. It takes time to find such a union. Everyone doesn't make it to the glorious part of the union out of fear. "Fear is a nagging bug that flies on your shoulder. When you get mad enough, you'll catch it." Don't let fear hold you back from something so blessed. You should know that the universe wouldn't lead you to such a union if you weren't worthy.
When you look back on all the relationships that you have been in or all the ones you never took a chance on...think about how fear played a role. You are accountable for your actions in any relationship and it is best to not hold grudges. That can also stall such great love from manifesting . When you awaken and are on your spiritual path then you will realize that certain issues aren't important in a relationship. The "me first" will completely die and you will start to think "we first". You have to put yourself in your lover's shoes and really pay attention to what you do.
You won't be perfect and definitely do not lose out on your own voice because you still matter. It takes a lot of time and effort to see frution in anything, but if both are willing then goodness will manifest. Life is too short to search for perfection because it doesn't exist. Instead we should search for acceptance with room to grow. Good luck on your love journey and may it lead you to a blessed and spiritual union in God.
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