The seed must crack open for a flower to be born.
- Growth Curve
Life is a learning process. We go forth into the unknown, experience good and bad; we grow. At some point, we all must to go deep within and work on ourselves; clear out all the pain, hurt and sorrow of the past. This is a process, which can only be done alone. It may seem like we are closed off but we are simply closed for renovations.
Renovate - Verb: To restore to good condition; make new or as if new again; repair. To reinvigorate; refresh; revive.
The key to a successful renovation is finding self-love. Becoming our best, authentic self, so we can genuinely love others requires the often-difficult and uneven journey inside ourselves. Learning unconditional love and self-acceptance begins with honesty.
Honest With Thy Self:
In order for each of us to be completely open and honest with those around us, especially in partnerships, we must first learn to be completely open and honest within our self. One can never speak the truth or expect that others will do the same if we are unable to look internally for truth and except it with honesty. Things that are said while one lives in fear or self-doubt are misleading because they are used as a defense. Statements like: I never want to see you again really mean “I wish we could see the truth in each other but I don’t know how”. Regardless of the form or method chosen by the individual the root cause is always the same: Our expectation is that our well-being and survival can only be met externally.
Breaking free from this misplaced idea is what truly allows us to live a fulfilling life because our needs are always met from within. Being honest about who we are, no matter how painful it might be, means feeling without boundaries. In doing so, we free ourselves from codependent behaviors and no longer have expectations of the way other people should be nor hold them accountable for the ways they are or are not. We realize the actions of others are only a reflection of how they view themselves and their current level of self-honesty. Forgiving even the greatest of trespasses is now possible because we know they had absolutely nothing to do with who we are or what we are worth.
With the achievement of this final step honest LOVE can flourish. The renovation is now complete and it is time for our grand re-opening.
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