You wake up and feel fantastic because you're going to complete a goal this morning. You listen to your favorite music and even kiss your annoying aunt on the cheek before leaving out the door. This is going to be your day and no one or nothing can stop it because you have fully prepared for this moment. I'm unsure of the goal you have in mind, but today is your day! Only thing that is standing in your way is a smile and a victory.
Then it happens and hits like a ton of bricks. You fall short of your expectations. You don't land that new promotion or pass that driving test. You just don't get what you were working on. You are shocked and angry initally because you prepared so well for that moment. It seemed as if the birds were chirping your victory, but it didn't happen. And it sucks!
No amount of words from a concerned lover or friend can take that pain away in the beginning. You just want to smash something or possibly fight a bear. You look forward to going home and telling your aunt just how annoying she really is. You just need to channel that anger and quickly. It's a sting that penetrates your heart. Although all those options seem soothing, especially the one with the bear, but none of them will take the pain of disappointment away.
They're not going to get you any closer to that option. In fact it may take you further away because when you do things out of anger they later come back to bite you in the ass (excuse my language). So its best to take a moment and by all means allow that anger to come out in a controlled manner. If need be, take a moment alone to think about what happened to you. You just went through a reality check and its hard to just bounce back. You are human and have every right to feel emotions.
You just don't have the right to take them out on others when things don't go your way. That is highly immature and inappropriate. However, it is wise not to sit with those negative emotions too long. It can suck the energy out of you and seep over into other areas of life. You MUST get back up and try again. You can try differently the next time. Or if its something that can't be repeated then check it off on your list as something you've experienced. Then move on to the next thing.
We are not perfection though we can have a perfectionist attitude towards life. We must be prepared for failure as told to me by someone wise. Throughout it all, concentrate on the victory and how it will feel to accomplish that goal of yours. In the mean time, continue to be kind to your annoying aunt. She loves you and is rooting you on.
Spiritual literature for the soul to inspire a better life.