No relationship exist without trial and error, but there has to be a level of unconditional love. You may be in a relationship with a partner who is less enlightened, but you have to show compassion and understanding because they are exactly where they need to be in life. You can continue to raise the vibration of the relationship by continuously focusing on the good aspects. The more work you do on your self than the better the relationship can go. That is why it is important to be in touch with yourself for those trying times in relationship. Having an outlet allows you time to process.
Both partners have to put forth effort to building a stable and strong relationship foundation. You have to discuss your goals in life. As well as discuss your relationship needs. You can't expect your partner to know those answers if you don't communicate them. It is crucial to be heading in the same direction. That doesn't mean you want the exact same things out of life, but you have a purpose and you're pursuing that purpose. Your relationship is one aspect of your life, but not your entire life. Each of you have a skill that the other needs and that is a reason why you're brought together overall.
Everything doesn't have to result in an argument. Love is of service and the more you focus on strengthening your relationship and the less you focus on your ego then the better your outcomes. You can't change your partner and have to be careful how you go about helping your partner because you don't want to come off as imposing on their choices. Give your partner the space to feel and find themselves through their path. Offer your partner encouragement and support and in return they will be receptive. You don't want to turn on their "authoritative switch". Then, you end up dealing with inflated egos on both sides and that isn't what a healthy relationship is about.
Remember, the reason why you ever got together. Reconnect to that friendship element and do things to remind you of that. You also have to validate your emotions too because love is about giving and receiving. Your partner has to be open to allowing you to speak your truth in a loving manner. Neither one of you are perfect so don't try to be. There will be times when you won't be able to act from your highest manner, but that is okay. Forgiveness then comes into play. If you guys run into a relationship challenge it is good to learn from that experience, but not good to hold on to a grudge.
Intimate love is a free flowing exchange that requires internal work and your partner is a mirror of the changes you need to make in yourself. Many have a misconception about love and focus solely on what they can get out of a relationship without being aware of the paradox that creates. You equally attract a relationship where someone feels the same selfishness. When you focus on what you can give to someone, it allows the universe to bring that love back to you through your partner. At the same time, you can't depend on your partner to make up for the inner happiness that you lack. It becomes draining to that partner and you miss out on your own life experiences.
When you look for someone else to make up for your lack of inner happiness it creates turmoil and more than often temper tantrums. You must be mature enough to admit your own wrongdoings and not blame your partner for your behavior. An intimate relationship is an extension of the love you already have for yourself inside. You just see a physical reflection of it. Emotional maturity is an important tool because it gives you an emotional core that allows you to see pass the surface personality and into the soul. When you love someone from the soul, you feel love on a deeper level that can be scary at times, but well worth it. If you are with someone who isn't as aware of the deepness of the connection, it is your divine duty to be patient with that person if it is a healthy relationship.
Allow them to continue to think of the relationship as any other type of relationship, but as long as you tend to love like a gardener than the energy has no choice, but to elevate that love to a higher level. It just takes time so enjoy the process of that deeper love unfolding. If it meant for you then it will happen for you. It is my promise. You have to be willing to let go of past paradigms to get an elevated love. You must release past wounds and outdated beliefs because real love requires the naked truth.
Laugh at the past and hold on to all that it taught you. You can't stop love from entering your life, but you want to be in the best vibration for when it does. If you are lucky enough to have it currently in your life then don't take it for granted. A kiss isn't a contract and you can't chain a soul. Sometimes vulnerability makes us cling too tight to love and it just slips between our fingers. It is fine to be vulnerable and you can communicate that with your partner.
Strength is a wonderful personality trait, but not if it gets in between you and your partner(brute force). Many times strength is a cover up for a fear of rejection or another soul lesson someone is learning. Honest dialogue no matter how painful is necessary to grow in a relationship because you know your partner accepts your flaws and all. You can start with words like "I feel..." oppose to "You make me feel...". Provide that space for you partner to be able to communicate hardships without being defensive. It is team effort and you should have team spirit.
Romance is important and keeps the heart fluttering. Go out and experience life together on an adventure. Go play a game of hide-and-seek. Allow the kid inside to create beautiful moments. Intimate love is an amazing experience as it should be. It is just the ego that gets in the way sometimes and makes life more complicated than it has to be. Focus on the little things in your relationship and the complexities will take care of themselves. Have a shared goal or hobby and work on that instead of working on the relationship achievements that society has. So long as you and your partner are on the same page then that is all that matters.
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