Letting go isn't something that is easy to do especially when you're trying to help someone. It is our human nature to try and help someone be the best that they can be. You sometimes tend to give your all and a little more to an individual in need. You see their greatness and want them to see it as well. It becomes draining to your own energy when that person doesn't want to help themselves.
A person unintentionally take from your energy reserve because they look to you to make up their own self worth. In the beginning, it is hard for you to recognize this because you see a great future for them. You know that they could be amazing if they were to have the proper guidance. In your heart you believe that a person needs you to get to the next level. We listen to their story and feel their pain. At times, you need to question a person's story because their story could be a sob story used to get people to do things for them.
After awhile, you need to pay attention to when that person calls on you for something. As well as what they do with the help that you give them. If you start to notice a negative trend then it is time to start letting go. You don't have to completely let go in the beginning, but you can slowly start setting your boundaries. You have to take back your power! You have to remember that you are a person that is set out to be greatness in your own life.
Everyone is capable of that power if they believe it. The universe is powerful enough to take care of all of us. There is no reason to feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulder. Sometimes the best thing you can do for a person is let them go. It forces that person to stand on their own feet. One day they will thank you for that. It might not be an actual thank you, but their actions could show that they were grateful.
The best way to show that they are grateful is by standing on their own two feet. For years I've suffered with the issue of letting go. I never knew my limits when helping someone. I was a sucker for sob stories for a long time. I still suffer with letting people fall on their own. Love is a powerful emotion, but being a fool isn't what it is designed for. Now, I learn to keep my distances even if it is temporarily.
If you don't learn this lesson then trust that the universe will continue to bring you "energy suckers" until you scream, "Okay, I've had enough!" You don't want to ever get to that point. The person's soul you are nurturing is already fragile so no need to hinder its healing process. You can be assertive in kind words and loving actions. One day sit down with that person and let them know that you need time to tend to things in your life. You mean them no harm, but you have to start taking care of you. You should never feel bad for taking care of you.
If you don't do it then who will? By you lending all your energy out to people, you are leaving no room for that energy to return back to you. Allow someone to do something for you to refuel your zest on life. It is nothing wrong with accepting help from others. It is a cycle in life between giving and taking. It has to be an even exchange or something is wrong.
When your hand is steady digging and the other is steady accepting then you are not in a healthy relationship. That includes all forms of relationships. You have to say enough is enough and move on with your life. We are not meant to feel sluggish and bitter because that is what the energy sucking will lead to. Learn to surround yourself with positive people who are on the same level as you to give you a break from those who are constantly in need of something.
Continue to be the kind and loving person that you are, but remember that you deserve to be loved also. Don't let no one take away your self worth or compromise who you are because they don't know themselves. Letting go can be a loving act and we are all angels so know that the person in need will find another guide. Hopefully in the end they will find themselves. Be a prayer from afar!
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