It takes a powerful person to forgive another and an even more powerful person to ask for forgiveness.
I was listening to an interview with Laura Doyle earlier this morning and it inspired me to write this article. She was talking about different ways of loving your partner, but I took it a step further and said those same tools are equally qualified to help you love any person you are having a disagreement with that has caused a rift in your relationship.
You have reached a point where you have learned all your lessons in a situation and your're ready to have an uncomfortable dialogue with another person. You are nervous because you are unsure how that person will respond or even if they have made changes in their life. You ponder to yourself all of your defense statements you can use in case your ego is bruised (unneeded). You boast to yourself and others about how much better you are now than before to make you feel comfortable. You should be because you realize that you are a powerful being and no one ever held you back, but yourself.
Others may agree with you because they don't know how gentle of a soul you are on the inside. Others may know how gentle you are, but respect you enough to not intervene. Deep down inside you know you need to reach out to another and tell them how you truly feel. You have become such an amazing individual and your soul is ready to receive that person. It is just your mind trying to "protect" you from a new experience. Your intuition is working at an all time high and you know what is truly going on, but it may be hard to accept such spiritual insight. It takes time to live from an intuitive nature. You are beginning to come to the realization that it is time to reconcile and rebuild something stronger.
The universe nudges you in that direction through your heart because you can't escape how you feel. You may feel like you aren't ready, but know that the universe only gives you what you need when the time is right. The universe trusts you to make this change and promises a great reward if you do. Fear is never enough of a reason to not follow your heart. Most of the time we are unaware of the other person's growth or insight. Both parties may be ready to make peace. When you heal old wounds you open up to receiving more. It is such a freeing experience of letting go of perceived obstacles and defenses based on past experiences.
Vulnerability is unavoidable because both parties have to admit to their own faults. Each person has to apologize to the other. Then a whole new world opens up. You have new experiences to share with each other. It proves that your distance apart served each person well. There is a full moon tomorrow which falls in Sagittarius. So it is a great time of releasing any old baggage or to reach out to others that you haven't spoken to in a while. Or to even repair bonds of those who you currently speak with.
It could be a friend, past/current lover, coworker, or family member that you had a disagreement with. Just seek peace in that bond. That is only if you feel there is something worth reconciling in that bond. On the other hand, if you're too scared to reach out then ask the universe to provide a way for you too. Time heals most wounds so don't brace yourself for conflict. Come to the conversation with a listening ear to see the other person's perspective and an open heart that is focused on rebuilding. You manifest what you think of and your good is only allowed in as much as you will allow it. Forgiveness is one tool that we are armed with spiritually.
You equally are in need of forgiving yourself for any discord you might have caused in another person's life. I realize that many people are hurting and hurt people tend to hurt people. For a long time I was lost as to why that happens, but now I know why. It is because they don't understand the power of love. They don't understand how it feels for another person to love them beyond their own misconception of themselves. We all have been guilty of hurting another person at one point in our lives and because of that we unintentionally shut others out.
There is no failing when it comes to loving others. Our parents are our first teachers on how to love others. Parents may be hurting and try to protect us from their mistakes and teach us how to avoid emotional wounds, but their methods aren't effective. We can blame them, but then again we can't. We are on a journey of unlearning all that we have been taught. Once you are able to see how much you have been conditioned in relating to others you are now at a point of loving from a deeper space. You have created new beliefs of unconditional love. So take those new beliefs and approach all relationships from that point of view.
Let all that happened in the past go with the full moon tomorrow. Reach for the love you desire from others and allow it to come back to you. This is your moment to make things right with another so take advantage of it. I am an avid believer in divine timing. You don't want to miss out on an amazing connection with another person. You could be laughing the day away if you just release any fears of rejection. Another fear to release is one of losing control. Respecting each other removes all power struggles.
The one who strives to be right is the weakest link. Learn to channel your power in a positive way. Asking for forgiveness doesn't make you look weak at all. It actually is one of the greatest acts of emotional maturity. Free yourself from the bondage of the past. Invoke the spirit of White Calf Buffalo Woman. She is about peace offering. Don't worry about the process of how everything will unfold. Have faith that it will turn out better than you think and follow your intuition. Remember the mind can't conceive everything. Forgiveness in its totality is an experience from the heart.
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