"There are two beings of light and love that are searching for each other in order to illuminate the world with their divine love connection."
We are all searching for our "soul mates" or some form of companionship that will make us complete. Intimate love is one of the most beautiful things to experience in life. Even so, you shouldn't look for another to complete you because in order to be loved, you have to love yourself FIRST. When you don't love yourself properly and look for it in others, you often settle for less than what you deserve.
I'm sitting at my computer and thinking about my journey in love and where it's headed right now. Ever since I started my spiritual journey I remember talking to the Higher Power about what I want in a mate. It came to be that way after a string of heartbreaks. I just got fed up with dubious characters and total jerks. I couldn't understand why those things were happening to me. I had good intentions and was on the road to a better life. So why would the universe continuously allow me to get hurt?
Well, it took me a couple of years to figure that one out. I remember in 2011, I decided to devote the entire year to getting to know me. It had to be a better way to attract the love I was seeking. See, when you ask for love you can't expect someone to make up the qualities that you lack. I believe in the law of attraction and you have to be the lover that you want in your life. Otherwise, your gonna end up with the same loser in different bodies.
Though I was hurt ample times by those guys it was because I allowed those guys to hurt me by not loving me fully. I had to figure out who I was and then go and seek the love that I deserved. When your going through heartbreaks it's not easy to see the positive, but once you heal and look back you can laugh. You laugh at how "in love" you were with someone who if you were in your right mind wouldn't even look at. I was spared many times because no matter what I didn't believe in giving my body to anyone.
I was able to walk away free for the most part. Not everyone is so lucky all the time including myself. It takes time for you to build your confidence up to the point that your not gonna take anymore setbacks. That was the state that I achieved in 2011. I started doing things that I liked including my "movie night" where I would grab some tea, a blanket, and a romance flick all by myself. It was the "me time" that made me feel good about myself. I also hung out with friends and did things. I read up on ways to attract guys and I also prayed.
I wrote a list of all the qualities that I wanted in a man. I did that previously in my younger years, but it had to be revised A LOT! At times, I did get my moments of loneliness, but my best friend and I kept each other going. We would talk about the things we would do with our lovers etc. It kept the hope for love in our hearts. The road to a good mate doesn't have to be done alone.
The beauty of love finding you is that you don't know how it is going to find you, so you have to be out and open. The biggest lesson I had to learn was that in order to get love, you have to stop looking for love. Trust me, it really works. I did the dating sites for awhile and my current guy is off of a site, but he found ME. He hit up my page on a popular dating site at a time when I wasn't even serious about love. In a way the Universe guided me to him. He was on a site that I vowed to never go back to because the guys I met off of there where jerks with the exception of one prior to him.
I felt I was guided to him because every time I would get on the internet my web browser would direct me to that site or I would see an ad for that site. I got fed up with it so I decided one late night to make a profile. I said, I would make it perfect with the right words and it would be equally comical because its no one on here for me. I got messages from guys, but I wasn't really interested in any of them. I remember waking up New Year's day of 2012 to my guy's message. It was an intriguing message and I felt compelled to reply.
At first, it was a rocky start of online communication. We didn't really kick things in motion until February of last year. We met in March of last year and been together ever since. I laughed at it because I didn't expect it to work. It took me awhile to get use to him because I had became this happily loner and wasn't really up for sharing my space. I also didn't realize how much inner resentment I had stored in my heart.
It was like I was guarded for a long while. Since him and I been together it has been nothing, but inner healing for the both of us. We both came from a string of bad lovers that left us cautious. I truly feel that we were both sent to each other to clear each other's karma. Usually, with karmic soul connections eventually the ties have to be severed. We have talked about that vaguely in the past. I mean who really wants to talk about a supposed inevitable breakup while your in love?
I did some reading on karmic soul connections and twin flame connections because of it. The highest form of love between two humans is the twin flame love connection. Its not a typical romantic relationship because its love is a godly love. It has the components of a romantic relationship, but is only brought together when two people have reached their highest purpose in life. It's rare, but some people are blessed to have met their twin flame in this lifetime.
It's not the easiest love because it is hard to understand. It's like being pulled out of everything you've ever been taught about love. There is often the dance between the runner and the chaser. The chaser is the one who recognizes the twin flame connection and tries to pursue the relationship. The runner is one who recognizes it, but is scared or doesn't understand the connection and tries to avoid the bonding. The chaser is more awakened to their purpose in this lifetime and eventually gets to a point after questioning their motives, self, a host of other things, and eventually lets the runner go. Allowing the runner time to pursue their life's purpose and eventually returns back to the connection.
There is something called free-will and you can't make someone be with you. While in this dance you have to learn unconditional love because that is what the twin flame connection is based on. If one or the other is in a committed relationship then that relationship has to be respected. So I say that to say that you won't always get your twin flame connection, but you can find a soulmate connection that is good. If your in a loving relationship that makes you happy then I advise you to stay in that relationship and cultivate that love.
Now a karmic soul connection on the other hand is one that you are in to help you heal. It is said to be one that isn't meant to last a long time because you are only with each other to heal past karma and move on to the love that the universe has for you. Can you imagine being with your one true love and full of baggage? Well, that's the purpose of a karmic soul connection to teach you all about love and yourself. It's one that you should end while one good terms because it can turn ugly and you end up resenting you mate or vice versa. I believe people cling too much to comfort or the fear of letting go.
So the thought of letting someone go just cringes them and they hold on even tighter to the person. I've learned not to do that anymore. I love as long as I'm allowed to love, but I do understand that the heart grows and so does the mind. I understand that not everyone you meet is meant to stay in your life forever. We are all here to teach each other love. I couldn't of done it without the jerks and assholes. Applause to them!
I am happy in my relationship, but I believe in enjoying each day so it can lead to another one. At the same time, I don't believe in holding too tight to the relationship either. I believe in building it to be the best that it can be though. It may sound like a nonchalant attitude towards it-- let me reassure you that it's not. Allow me to clear it up by saying that my partner and I are constantly trying to find ways to build each other into the best we can be. We acknowledge that we may or may not be together forever, but not gonna let that stop us from loving each other as long as we can.
He is not only my lover, but a cool dude and no matter what happens we have a strong friendship that can't be broken by no one other than us. We are like two adolescents on the playground when we are together just full of laughter and smiles. It's been that day since the first time we talked on the phone. I adore his love for me and he is delighted in my joy for him. It may seem like I went on a personal love trip, but I believe my personal experience can help you to relate. It shows my experience and wisdom to better help you on your journey to love.
If you took anything away from this article I hope it would be to love yourself first. Embrace the heart breaks because they were lessons in disguise. Remember to not get stuck up in the past. Above all else, be the love you seek. As well as to create your list of qualities and don't be afraid to be picky. In love you have a given right to be stingy and picky. This is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Now, you can be flexible at will with some things, but core values are something you shouldn't bend for any one. For example, don't date an atheist if you asked God for a Christian just because the atheist is funny. You will live to regret that choice in the future because what feels good today may not feel good twenty years later. Last, but not least try to have as much fun as you can on this journey of love. The more you laugh the better your chances of finding Mrs. or Mr. Right. Every person you meet isn't the one your meant to be with, but it's one step closer to the one you are truly meant to be with. Trust in the universe that every heartbreak will be mended and the right one will come along.
You have your entire life to be loved so allow all the love you can inside your heart. The most important thing to do is to pray for the universe to lead you to that divine connection that the Higher Power has blessed in his name for you. Until love finds you it's healthy to keep that love light on in your heart chakra by relishing in little things. There is all kinds of love like family love, pet love, and friendship that keeps the heart open. By doing some of the things I've shared here with you, it will definitely show the universe that you are open and ready, and watch the potential candidates pour in, but this time you have the lessons from you past loves to weed out the diamonds from the rough.
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